Apparently since the creation of Facebook it has suddenly become acceptable to simply be Unfriended on Facebook rather the broken up with. As if relationships aren't hard enough, we now not only have to worry about getting dumped but deletion.
Unbelievable. I've heard of being dumped by phone, on an answering machine, by a friend, an awkward email the list is almost endless then I hear this.
The more things made available to enhance communication suddenly made it easier to Ex-communicate, and possibly, eventually make verbal conversation obsolete all together.
Saturday, December 8, 2007
Thursday, May 3, 2007
Just for fun
The fact is ladies, we don't have to do a lot to pick up men, the hard part is keeping them :-)
I got this email the other day and I thought it went well with the current theme of my blog.. ok it goes with the constant theme lol.
There is no such law that states only males can use pick-up lines - in fact, it's proven that a female has a higher success rate, with that being said here are my favourites.
1. Are my undies showing? He: ["No."] You: Would you like them to?
2. What's a sexy guy like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?
3. I'm a hurdle. Do you want to jump me?
4. Are you busy tonight at 2:00 A.M.?
5. (As he's leaving)....Hey aren't you forgetting something? He: What?
You: Me!
6. As you walk by, turn around and say: Excuse me, did you just touch
my ass? He: No. You: Why not??
7. Congratulations! You've been voted "Most Hottest Guy In This Room"
and the grand prize is a night with me!
8. Damn, I thought "very-fine" only came in a bottle!
9. Do you mind if I stare at you up close instead of from across the
room?
10. Does your girlfriend know where you are?
11. Excuse me, do you believe in one-night stands?
12. Excuse me, do you think you might possibly have a mutual friend who
could introduce us.
13. Hi, are you here to meet a nice girl or will I do?
14. Hi, I've been undressing you with my eyes all night long, and think
it's time to see if I'm right.
15. Hi. You'll do.
16. I've had quite a bit to drink, and you're beginning to look pretty
good.
17. Say, did we go to different schools together?
18. You see my friend over there? [Point to friend who sheepishly waves from
afar] She wants to know if YOU think I'M cute.
19. You're HOT!
I got this email the other day and I thought it went well with the current theme of my blog.. ok it goes with the constant theme lol.
There is no such law that states only males can use pick-up lines - in fact, it's proven that a female has a higher success rate, with that being said here are my favourites.
1. Are my undies showing? He: ["No."] You: Would you like them to?
2. What's a sexy guy like you doing in a dirty mind like mine?
3. I'm a hurdle. Do you want to jump me?
4. Are you busy tonight at 2:00 A.M.?
5. (As he's leaving)....Hey aren't you forgetting something? He: What?
You: Me!
6. As you walk by, turn around and say: Excuse me, did you just touch
my ass? He: No. You: Why not??
7. Congratulations! You've been voted "Most Hottest Guy In This Room"
and the grand prize is a night with me!
8. Damn, I thought "very-fine" only came in a bottle!
9. Do you mind if I stare at you up close instead of from across the
room?
10. Does your girlfriend know where you are?
11. Excuse me, do you believe in one-night stands?
12. Excuse me, do you think you might possibly have a mutual friend who
could introduce us.
13. Hi, are you here to meet a nice girl or will I do?
14. Hi, I've been undressing you with my eyes all night long, and think
it's time to see if I'm right.
15. Hi. You'll do.
16. I've had quite a bit to drink, and you're beginning to look pretty
good.
17. Say, did we go to different schools together?
18. You see my friend over there? [Point to friend who sheepishly waves from
afar] She wants to know if YOU think I'M cute.
19. You're HOT!
Monday, April 9, 2007
Hypnosis
Ok so the next part of the book that really 'took' me was a system someone uses that is pretty much Hypnosis. This upsets me. They learn/teach to use certain words and ways of speaking to literally hypnotize women into thinking they like them. This I don't like. It is one thing to learn how to show confidence and or how to get a women's attention, but there is a line. I have no problem with men using 'gimmicks' to pick up women because ultimately we fall for the guy behind the show. It is getting our attention that is hard. Getting women to sleep with you by hypnosis is just plan sleazy.
Now to be clear this guy isn't putting women in a trance or anything, but he is using key words almost subliminal messages to 'convince' them they are into him. I find that weird and disturbing. I am not going to go much more into this because they don't actually go into a lot of detail in the book, so I feel I will misrepresent the book by interpretation if I do.
If you have any comments please share.
Now to be clear this guy isn't putting women in a trance or anything, but he is using key words almost subliminal messages to 'convince' them they are into him. I find that weird and disturbing. I am not going to go much more into this because they don't actually go into a lot of detail in the book, so I feel I will misrepresent the book by interpretation if I do.
If you have any comments please share.
Monday, April 2, 2007
Sex Magic
Ok so here is a guideline that one of the pick up artists has written for his followers. I will try to explain if there are terms that are unclear.
1) Smile when you walk into a room. See the group with the target and follow the three second rule. Do not hesitate - approach instantly.
This is mostly self explanatory. The three second rule is basically that the man has to approach the target (or group) right away. By the way if the target is in a group he will ignore her and maybe even throw a snarky comment at her (called a Neg).
2) Recite a memorized opener, if not two or three in a row.
Self Explanatory, can be something as simple as "Did you guys watch the game tonight?"
3) The opener should open the group, not just the target. When talking ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.
4) Neg the target with one of the slew negs we've come up with.
Here is when he insults the girl he likes, if he does it right, he makes it seem cute.
5) Convey personality to the entire group. Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humour. Pay particular attention to the men and the less attractive women.
6) Neg the target again if appropriate.
Again insult her.. this guy gets laid a lot by the way.
7) Ask the group, "So, how does everyone know each other? ' if the target is with one of the guys inquire for how long.. then say "pleasure meeting you both".
This one bothers me because he isn't saying forget about the target, he is basically telling the guys to be nice to the boyfriends as they are going to still try to sleep with their girlfriends.
8) If she is single, say to the group "I've sort of been alienating your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple minutes?" Usually they agree.
9) Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, its on. Start looking for other IOIs.
First of all I find this creepy, if I'm with my friends I'm not getting up and leaving to chat with you after you just insulted me.
Explanations: Kino test : physical touch test... if you touch her and she lets you its a good sign or an IOI (indicator of interest).
10) Sit her down and perform a Demonstrative Value.
In other words do a magic trick or play a mind game, recite a riddle... Um weird?
11) Tell her "Beauty is common but what's rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me what to know you as more then a mere face in the crowd?" if she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI.
Ok pleeeease tell me this doesn't work!
12) Stap talking. Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word 'So?' . If so, you have seen 3 IOIs and you can move on to step 13.
13) Kiss Close. Say out of the blue "Would you like to kiss me?" If it's not a conduciveenvironment or have to go say "I have to go, but we should continue this" and then get her number and leave.
This one makes me laugh as I have heard it 100 times, the problem is they have a response for Yes - No and Maybe... here it is.
Yes - They kiss you.
No - They say "I didn't say you could, it just look like you had something on your mind"
Maybe - Say "Lets find out" and he kisses you.
So.. I have spent the last 3 days trying to think of a response that they couldn't get out of... and that is this.
"Do you want to kiss me?"
So now they are stuck. If they say yes, no or maybe and you are a bitch like me, you can say "thought so" and walk away.
That's all I have today. Back to the book...
1) Smile when you walk into a room. See the group with the target and follow the three second rule. Do not hesitate - approach instantly.
This is mostly self explanatory. The three second rule is basically that the man has to approach the target (or group) right away. By the way if the target is in a group he will ignore her and maybe even throw a snarky comment at her (called a Neg).
2) Recite a memorized opener, if not two or three in a row.
Self Explanatory, can be something as simple as "Did you guys watch the game tonight?"
3) The opener should open the group, not just the target. When talking ignore the target for the most part. If there are men in the group, focus your attention on the men.
4) Neg the target with one of the slew negs we've come up with.
Here is when he insults the girl he likes, if he does it right, he makes it seem cute.
5) Convey personality to the entire group. Do this by using stories, magic, anecdotes, and humour. Pay particular attention to the men and the less attractive women.
6) Neg the target again if appropriate.
Again insult her.. this guy gets laid a lot by the way.
7) Ask the group, "So, how does everyone know each other? ' if the target is with one of the guys inquire for how long.. then say "pleasure meeting you both".
This one bothers me because he isn't saying forget about the target, he is basically telling the guys to be nice to the boyfriends as they are going to still try to sleep with their girlfriends.
8) If she is single, say to the group "I've sort of been alienating your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple minutes?" Usually they agree.
9) Isolate her from the group by telling her you want to show her something. Take her to sit with you nearby. As you lead her through the crowd, do a kino test by holding her hand. If she squeezes back, its on. Start looking for other IOIs.
First of all I find this creepy, if I'm with my friends I'm not getting up and leaving to chat with you after you just insulted me.
Explanations: Kino test : physical touch test... if you touch her and she lets you its a good sign or an IOI (indicator of interest).
10) Sit her down and perform a Demonstrative Value.
In other words do a magic trick or play a mind game, recite a riddle... Um weird?
11) Tell her "Beauty is common but what's rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me what to know you as more then a mere face in the crowd?" if she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI.
Ok pleeeease tell me this doesn't work!
12) Stap talking. Does she reinitiate the chat with a question that begins with the word 'So?' . If so, you have seen 3 IOIs and you can move on to step 13.
13) Kiss Close. Say out of the blue "Would you like to kiss me?" If it's not a conduciveenvironment or have to go say "I have to go, but we should continue this" and then get her number and leave.
This one makes me laugh as I have heard it 100 times, the problem is they have a response for Yes - No and Maybe... here it is.
Yes - They kiss you.
No - They say "I didn't say you could, it just look like you had something on your mind"
Maybe - Say "Lets find out" and he kisses you.
So.. I have spent the last 3 days trying to think of a response that they couldn't get out of... and that is this.
"Do you want to kiss me?"
So now they are stuck. If they say yes, no or maybe and you are a bitch like me, you can say "thought so" and walk away.
That's all I have today. Back to the book...
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
The Game
For those of you who don't know about the book by Neil Strauss "The Game - Penetrating the secret society of pick up artists" I want to give you a brief idea of what it is about.
It is a true story, made out to be like a 'Man's Bible' or 'Survival Guide' of some sort to help men pick up women. In a sense it makes women look stupid, but it also says a lot about the psychology of women. I am currently reading it and although I've only read a few chapters, I can already see that I too have been played. Honestly, I didn't think I had been... not as much as I'm afraid I may discover I have.
As I read I plan to let you ladies know what I am reading, and give you examples of what these men do.. if for nothing else but to help you realize when you are being played. It is hard to admit, but it happens to all of us. Now I don't want you to think that all men are creeps or out only to get you in the sack. I do want you to be self aware though, and not allow men to make you feel like a fool.
Once I am more familiar with 'The Game' I hope to conduct a little experiment of my own. I want to see if I can become a player, as oppose to a playee.
I will try to write as often as possible... please please please feel free to comment, in fact I insist on it. I want to hear your stories, how you were played or how you dodged a player. I know that one might be embarrassed, but we have to stick together. Win the Game so to speak.
On that note I will now continue my read... and remember this:
'Don't hate the Player, hate the Game'
It is a true story, made out to be like a 'Man's Bible' or 'Survival Guide' of some sort to help men pick up women. In a sense it makes women look stupid, but it also says a lot about the psychology of women. I am currently reading it and although I've only read a few chapters, I can already see that I too have been played. Honestly, I didn't think I had been... not as much as I'm afraid I may discover I have.
As I read I plan to let you ladies know what I am reading, and give you examples of what these men do.. if for nothing else but to help you realize when you are being played. It is hard to admit, but it happens to all of us. Now I don't want you to think that all men are creeps or out only to get you in the sack. I do want you to be self aware though, and not allow men to make you feel like a fool.
Once I am more familiar with 'The Game' I hope to conduct a little experiment of my own. I want to see if I can become a player, as oppose to a playee.
I will try to write as often as possible... please please please feel free to comment, in fact I insist on it. I want to hear your stories, how you were played or how you dodged a player. I know that one might be embarrassed, but we have to stick together. Win the Game so to speak.
On that note I will now continue my read... and remember this:
'Don't hate the Player, hate the Game'
Friday, March 9, 2007
Push and Run
For those of you who don't know my relationship pattern, it goes something like this. Meet a guy... usually am not interested. He manages to spend time with me 'cause I can't say now. I start to like him, as soon as I realize that I could like him a lot I push him away or run in the other direction.
So if you read my post below, you will see that I met someone I liked and he was just like me. So much that when things started to get good and I got comfortable, he pushed and ran.
Push and Run.. That's what I will call it.. the Push and Run.
Is there a lesson in this? Am I suppose to date the guy who is like me or opposite? How do I pick and choose. I want someone who has outgoing qualities like me, but can share the centre of attention. I need someone who can take it slow, but isn't afraid of commitment like I am. I want someone who has a dreams, but can bring me down from having my head in the clouds when he has to. I don't know how so many people have found love and gotten married, seems too tricky. I need to know your secrets. Please share.
I will just hope for better luck next time I guess.
So if you read my post below, you will see that I met someone I liked and he was just like me. So much that when things started to get good and I got comfortable, he pushed and ran.
Push and Run.. That's what I will call it.. the Push and Run.
Is there a lesson in this? Am I suppose to date the guy who is like me or opposite? How do I pick and choose. I want someone who has outgoing qualities like me, but can share the centre of attention. I need someone who can take it slow, but isn't afraid of commitment like I am. I want someone who has a dreams, but can bring me down from having my head in the clouds when he has to. I don't know how so many people have found love and gotten married, seems too tricky. I need to know your secrets. Please share.
I will just hope for better luck next time I guess.
Friday, March 2, 2007
Next...
So I've been getting emails asking me to update my blog.... who am I dating now, what's going on etc. I have to tell you this blog is getting a bit boring as it is always about me lately. Please!!! send me stories, I need more.
Anyway I digress...
I am writing with a story this time that doesn't upset me, scare me or frustrate me. I met a man and I like him. Seriously, it was a random meeting, at a bar of all places, he joked and invited me to the Bahamas, seemed nice, I gave him my card and thought nothing of it. Figured just a nice laugh.
Well a few days later I got an email saying that if I wouldn't go to the Bahamas the least I could do was let him take me out for dinner. So of course I did... well lunch, but lunch led to dinner (the same day). I have been dating him for a few weeks now, and I look forward to seeing him again. Rare for me. I don't know how to describe him, but in a nutshell he is the male version of me. I think that's a good thing.
I hope to keep you posted on good things... but please someone give me stories to entertain!!
Anyway I digress...
I am writing with a story this time that doesn't upset me, scare me or frustrate me. I met a man and I like him. Seriously, it was a random meeting, at a bar of all places, he joked and invited me to the Bahamas, seemed nice, I gave him my card and thought nothing of it. Figured just a nice laugh.
Well a few days later I got an email saying that if I wouldn't go to the Bahamas the least I could do was let him take me out for dinner. So of course I did... well lunch, but lunch led to dinner (the same day). I have been dating him for a few weeks now, and I look forward to seeing him again. Rare for me. I don't know how to describe him, but in a nutshell he is the male version of me. I think that's a good thing.
I hope to keep you posted on good things... but please someone give me stories to entertain!!
Saturday, February 17, 2007
I'm Free!!
So a long time coming I finally told Tom I didn't want to see him anymore. It was hard as he was/is so nice to me... good news is he fucked up. It wasn't a big deal really, but it did 'give me an out' basically confirming what we knew all along, that we weren't good together.
I am excited, and I am ready to try again. Good luck to me. Stay posted though as I have met some interesting people who might get a chance to lock me in... lol... Also good luck to them.
I am excited, and I am ready to try again. Good luck to me. Stay posted though as I have met some interesting people who might get a chance to lock me in... lol... Also good luck to them.
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
It's Official I'm afraid of Commitment
I have nothing to add to that. I don't want a boyfriend, I don't want a husband, I want to continue to fill my life with meaningless relationships.
This sucks. Hoping someone can change that, but I don't see it happening soon.
This sucks. Hoping someone can change that, but I don't see it happening soon.
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Commitment-Phobic
So... I'm sure we are all wondering about Tom. I am still seeing him. I did tell him how I felt, or more so how I don't feel. Surprisingly he took it well, and in fact might like me more. I have found myself wanting to hang out with him more often now that the pressure is off. Can you say commitment-phobic?
I worry that I want him around because I'm lonely. Then I worry that I don't want him around because I am afraid of commitment. I am the most confused person I know. I want a boyfriend, but if I there is someone interested I push them away. I think it ultimately comes down to this:
When the right guy comes around I will NOT push him away, I will NOT be afraid, and I WILL be happy.
Until then I am going make a real effort with Tom. He is happy to keep it casual, and I'm good at that.
The other thing I have to get over is being with him in public or in front of friends... I am so closed. I'm not embarrassed of him at all, and god I hope he doesn't think I am. I just feel (likely as we have mutual friends) that every move we make is under scrutiny. In fact it bothers me so much he hasn't met any of my friends. I hate people judging before I do. I guess I want to decide how I feel before I hear the opinions of others... and being as I can't do that I'm going to have to have a secret/private relationship until then.
I am just wondering if anyone else's out there is as crazy as I am. Seriously this is not even girly, it's stupid.
I worry that I want him around because I'm lonely. Then I worry that I don't want him around because I am afraid of commitment. I am the most confused person I know. I want a boyfriend, but if I there is someone interested I push them away. I think it ultimately comes down to this:
When the right guy comes around I will NOT push him away, I will NOT be afraid, and I WILL be happy.
Until then I am going make a real effort with Tom. He is happy to keep it casual, and I'm good at that.
The other thing I have to get over is being with him in public or in front of friends... I am so closed. I'm not embarrassed of him at all, and god I hope he doesn't think I am. I just feel (likely as we have mutual friends) that every move we make is under scrutiny. In fact it bothers me so much he hasn't met any of my friends. I hate people judging before I do. I guess I want to decide how I feel before I hear the opinions of others... and being as I can't do that I'm going to have to have a secret/private relationship until then.
I am just wondering if anyone else's out there is as crazy as I am. Seriously this is not even girly, it's stupid.
Monday, January 15, 2007
Change of Heart or Chicken Shit?
With Respect to the previous entry I am still dating Tom as I may, or may not, have had a change of heart. He seems to be calming down around me, especially when we aren't alone. I am giving it a shot. Someone who treats me that well deserves an effort on my part.
I have to be honest though, I'm going in thinking it's not going to work. I know can't go in thinking that. I just know myself. Hopefully I can be PC and if I have to end it, and end it well. Or alternatively I hope I fall madly in love with him and have his babies... ha ha okay that was a joke. Just hoping to like him for now.
I have to be honest though, I'm going in thinking it's not going to work. I know can't go in thinking that. I just know myself. Hopefully I can be PC and if I have to end it, and end it well. Or alternatively I hope I fall madly in love with him and have his babies... ha ha okay that was a joke. Just hoping to like him for now.
Monday, January 8, 2007
Back in the dating scene…
I have been dating someone (3 dates only) 2 years younger than me, not a big deal, in fact hardly noticeable. We will call him Tom. He is smart and really nice, and not bad to look at, fairly attractive actually, but not only is the spark not there, one I thought was there as we have been dancing around dating each other for over a year, but it seems as if we are on 2 different pages, more so 2 different books. He is reading science-fiction and I’m ready a biography. He has fun and is enthusiastic every time I see him, so happy etc. I on the other hand want to saw off my arm. Seriously, I find his stories long and uninteresting, not necessarily because they are boring, I really just think it’s a bad match. This normally wouldn’t be a problem except that he is a friend of a friend. This friend I didn’t want to tell about the dating, but Tom has already mentioned it… he is also writing a tell all book. That bugs me as well. Three dates to me hardly constitutes bragging rights, and I have only told a couple friends, no names mentioned, no introductions or anything. Now the question is, how to I stop seeing him without causing a wave of interest and far too many inquiries? I don't think I can, I must prepare.
Next date, accidental date really, but has to be mentioned is interesting for a number of reasons. Reason number one, he was a lot younger then me. We will call him Joey (‘cause he is a kid) lol. My usual rule is half my age plus 7, he is half my age plus 6. That is a lot younger then me, but as I said, my taste hasn’t changed. Thinking we were just hanging out (he is a friend from an old job) I agreed to go out with him. When he arrived and after a few comments he made I realized he thought we were on a date... I guess we were. I didn’t worry too much about it until afterward. Which brings us to interesting bit number two, I had more fun with him then I did with Tom. This pushes me further into thinking I need to end things with Tom… but what do I do about Joey? So far I have done nothing, and it has worked. Avoidance is key.
For 2007 I hope to meet someone that is closer to my age, has similar goals, wants what I want in a relationship.. oh and is UBBER HOT. Is that too much to ask?
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