He's Just not that into You... I mean Me

The excuses… I’ve heard them all. Every time a friend calls and says, “He didn’t call”, “He’s too busy”, “He’s not ready for a relationship” or “It’s bad timing”, I tell her one thing and one thing only… “He’s just not that into you”. Yes I’ve read the book, and I’ve passed on the good word “He’s Just Not That Into You”.

Why is it then, that when I here the same excuses I can’t convince myself that he’s not that into me? I know if I were giving advice to me, I would say… “Honey, he’s just not that into you” Seriously, if a guy really likes you, he will make it happen, good or bad timing, ready or not. I’ve had the guy who wasn’t ready date … not that it didn’t end in a disaster, but the point is, he wasn’t ready, it was bad timing, yet he still made it happen, because he wanted it to. So these guys who are using this as an excuse are getting away with only one thing… our feelings. Giving us false hope is not cool. In fact it is the exact opposite of cool… it’s out right shitty. Do they realize they are doing this to us? Do they think they are being kind by giving us a glimpse of hope that we turn into a, dare I call it, a relationship. We will sit and discuss these men, try to figure out these men, and worst of all WAIT for these men. As if time is really the issue. I have fallen for it once, maybe even twice…and I will fall for it again, the only thing I can say to my friends, is please slap some sense into me when you see me fall for “bad timing guy”. “I like you but I’m not ready” can mean one of two things: The more obvious one ‘let’s have sex until I’m ready… and when I’m ready, I’ll be dating someone that isn’t you… Oh, and thanks again for the sex’. Or he just likes the attention, it might be true, he might not be ready to date, but tells you he likes you too keep you interested and him feeling good about himself. These guys don’t give up … if you don’t have sex with them, that’s okay, because they are earning your trust. You think; well he isn’t trying to get in to my pants he must really like me. Nope… not the case. What he is thinking is, I’m not dating anyone right now… she’ll do me eventually. Chin up and pants on, it’s time to take charge. Let’s have them wonder… “Is she, just not that into me?”